Why We Built Before They Forget

Before They Forget was not built from theory. It was built from lived experience, love, and the reality of caring for someone at home while learning what that truly requires.

My Mother

My mother was one of the kindest people in the world.

She was widowed for nearly forty years when she passed, and my father was the love of her life. She taught all of us what love, loyalty, and commitment look like. She made brownies for everyone. She made people smile. And she was the kind of person who never missed church.

When she stopped going to church, we knew something had changed.

That was one of the first moments when it became clear that what we were seeing was more than ordinary aging. Things were changing, and our family was stepping into a season we were not fully prepared for, no matter how much we loved her.

Caring for Her at Home

I was living with my mother, along with my daughter and granddaughters. My son Aaron moved down from Atlanta to help because he had the flexibility to do so. As things became more difficult, he let his sister and nieces move into his home, and he moved in with me so the two of us could care for my mother together.



We were doing what so many families do. We were trying to figure it out as we went. We were trying to make the home safer, reduce confusion, and create an environment that worked better not only for my mother, but for all of us caring for her each day.

We learned very quickly that love is not the hard part. The hard part is knowing what to do next.

What We Learned

Families need more than information. They need practical guidance they can actually use inside the home.

We learned how many small things can suddenly matter in a very big way. The layout of a room. What is left out on a counter. Whether lighting is clear enough. Whether routines still feel familiar. Whether something that seems small today could become dangerous tomorrow.

When you are living through it, even simple decisions can feel heavy. You are trying to protect someone you love while also trying to hold everything else together. That is why home safety matters so much.

We were not looking for more information. We were looking for clarity.

Why We Built Before They Forget

That experience is why we built Before They Forget.

We built it to help families look at the home more clearly, identify potential safety concerns, and understand practical next steps before things become even more overwhelming.

Before They Forget is not about fear. It is about love, dignity, and giving families guidance they can actually use while caring for someone at home.



We built this from lived experience, and we built it in the hope that other families might feel a little less alone in the process.

One of her happiest days!

She gave our family so much love. This is who we carry with us in building Before They Forget.